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Holiday Madness.

It’s December 11 and I’m dreading the thought of New Years Eve.

What is it about the holidays that makes a single person feel like unless your in a committed relationship, your not spending the holiday the way it was intended to be spent? I know the sickness is coming, as it does to all single people during the holidays.
The Holiday Madness.
Thoughts of going solo to family or friends functions. Doing all your shopping alone as everyone one else has a copilot. Buying yourself a gift, so you have something to unwrap on Xmas morning. These can all be triggers for the madness. But honestly, anything can bring it. Last year, my episode was started after watching Christmas Vacation. Damn you Beverly D’Angelo, so damn hot.
It’s enough to cause us all to go a little mental, to over eat just a bit, to drink a little extra.
But be careful of the warning signs. Some don’t realize The Madness has gripped them. Realizing after they’ve reached the 2nd level.

The first level is the Desperate stage.

Being a little extra flirty with single friends. Dropping hints about wanting to be fixed up. Logging on to all the dating apps and loading extra cleavage shots or bare, muscle flexing, pics.
I’m not obsessing over tinder yet, I expect I will be soon though.

Then we have the 2nd stage called the Assuming stage.

It’s when you assume that any interaction-with available friends, strangers, that they have some hidden meaning. That a simple hello means,  “I’m interested in starting something serious with you”. While in this stage, friends and family will warn you of the oncoming mistakes. But being in this stage means you’ve lost your ability to see reality. Your subcoming to the Madness.
I’ve been victim to this stage many times. One year, I thought my friends mom was totally hitting on me, even though she was in her late sixties and married.

The worst is the 3rd. It’s the one we all tend to later regret. It’s the Ex-love stage.

The deeper you are in the Madness, the more you convince yourself that your previous relationships weren’t so bad. You forget the reasons for the break up, lose memory of filed police reports. Only to remember everything after the holidays have passed. After the attempt, and in most cases successful, relationships have restarted.
This is disaster waiting to happen.
Every day I get closer to calling an ex, checking they’re Facebook page, reading old text messages.This is the stage I fear the most.

Be brave people. Luckily, the Holiday Madness season is halfway over. Staring back in early November, it will fizzle out by January 2nd.
However late in the season it may be, there’s still plenty of time for the sickness to infect you. Avoid crowds,  stay home. Be strong.


How the Grinch (consumerism) almost stole Xmas.

During the holidays, kids get spoiled, parents get drunk, relationships start, relationships end. Regardless your situation, parent or not a parent, the holiday season affects you in some way, shape or form. My point of view of course is as a parent. A dad of a 10 year old daughter. I totally get that my advice, rant, whatever is one sided. Its my view of my world. This is the scenery that I awake to every morning. Father, struggling new business owner with debt and other stresses. I try my hardest not to judge others. And that’s freaking hard sometimes. Jealousy and envy. those are hard feelings to ignore sometimes.

This is the first Christmas that I don’t have a tree up for the holiday. I know, its still early so something might change. But money wise, its been a tough past 2 months. Its all for a reason, I get that. But when I see my ex and her husband going out, spending on the kids. When I’m embarrassed to see my nephew’s or niece because I’ve come up short for their holiday gifts. When I can’t even plan a trip home since I cant afford the gas money. Its hard to keep a jolly view of yourself or the holiday. I mean lets face it. The holiday season is all about those ads. The specials going on everywhere. Its near impossible to avoid the constant reminders. So should I be upset, jealous or envious that they can afford it but I cant?


Even thought its been a hard few months (and I totally get that I brought this on myself). I made the decision to avoid a low end position for what I really wanted. I get that, I accept that. I’m not mad at anyone, especially myself.

Everyday we make decisions that affect a time in the future. That maybe a few moment’s, to a few days, years, lifetimes away. I may complain to my brother that I cant afford a Xmas tree. I may vent to my friend Jeff about my inability to walk in to a store without feeling guilt. But this isn’t the reason for this time of year. And I’m not referring to the religious side of the season. I mean the goodness and warmness that this time of year brings. The real holiday season. Not the ads. Not the specials. Not the enormous expense of living the holiday that society now seems to lead by example. Its about making cheap sugar cookies with my daughter. Its about walking out and enjoying a snow covered morning. Its about feeling the genuine warmth from others feeling the wonderful spirit of giving.

Its about love. Plain and simple. Its about feeling the love that we all feel grow and grow during this holiday season.

So I’ll count my blessings and count my pennies.

I have family that I may not be next to thinking of me this holiday season. I have friends that mean it when they wish me a prosperous new year.

And best of all. I have a 10 year daughter that wants nothing more than to be with her family this holiday (that last line made me tear up).

Life’s good this season.

Even when your without the low interest credit card.

What if my dating profile was honest?

We all know that dating site profiles are not 100% honest. There’s some honesty there, but there’s also what the person posting likes to think of as “adding mystery”. Let’s face it, dating sites are all just glorified used car lots. And we’re the used cars (I’ll be honest, I embellished about my old Ford Explorer). But it’s common practice right? But what if my used car Ad was totally honest? I’m referring to my dating site Ad, not an actual car Ad. I’m not currently selling my car.

Chicano looking for a Chicana.

(Actually, I don’t really care if your Chicana, Asian, Afro-American, Native American or some unknown Swedish/German/Japanese hybrid. I’m lonely and I accept interest from all races.)

About     Non-Smoker with A “Few Extra Pounds” body type (I can barely run a mile, let alone inhale cigarette smoke. And a “few extra pounds” was maybe 5 years ago. At this point I would add a good 5% more to that concept)
City      ### New Mexico
Details    40 year old Male, 5′ 7″ (170cm)   
Ethnicity     Other Ethnicity, Capricorn  (I’m not Hispanic or Latino. Those are words created by the mass media to describe the Chicano movement I’m a proud Chicano. But because of this sites restrictions I’ll be listed as ‘OTHER’. So now women will just assume I’m a Jewish guy from the mid-east. ) 
Intent     Not seeking a relationship or any kind of commitment. (I am actually seeking a relationship, but because of fear of coming across as desperate, I’ll hide my true intentions and play it cool. Just imagine me standing against the wall at the club. I’m cool on the outside but oh so lonely within.)    
Education     Some college      (I completed one term of community college. Then I proceeded to foolishly spend my student loan money on worthless items. Like buying my then girlfriend a $400 iPod. Great investment there guy.)
Personality     Free Thinker   (What was I suppose to pick? I’m not a freaking hippy, nor am I a gamer, politician or communist coffee drinker. I’m just me. A middle age guy that prefers to watch Star Wars movies (the original 3 of course) and eat unhealthy meals.) 
Profession     Self Employed  (I started my own business because I couldn’t conform my prior employers to adapt to my relaxed work ethic and sporadic attendance habits.)
I am seeking a :  Woman (And with every day that passes, this detail becomes hazier and hazier.)
For  :   Dating (Or random bouts of uncommitted sex, ego boosting, mothering, justifying my current place in life, etc…)
Do drink? : Yes (Rarely can I afford it.)
Hair color : Gray (After a point, hair coloring becomes too expensive.)
Eye color? : Brown (Sexy brown wasn’t a choice.)
Do you do drugs? : NO (Why? Are you offering?)
Do you have children? : Yes (You will meet them only when it becomes necessary for you to spend the night.)
 Do you want children? : NO (I can barely afford my own kid, why would I want more?)
 Marital Status? : Divorced (I’m used but broken in.)
 Longest relationship? : 6 years (But while in it, it seemed endless.)
 How ambitious are you? : Very (I need a job. I need a job. I need a job.)
 Pets? : Dog ( He is the only one that doesn’t judge my gluttony.)
Second language? : Spanish (Mostly picked up from watching American Me and Blood in, Blood Out.)
About me :
I’m a laid back guy that’s looking for a partner in crime. Must have a sense of humor, able to take a joke and enjoy intelligent conversations.
I love hiking, reading and cuddling while watching great, stimulating cinema.
Lets chat and see where it takes us.
Hope to hear from you soon!
(I’m currently laid off from work and looking for a partner who can afford to buy me dinner and spot me gas every so often. My sense of humor is pretty crude and often consisting of fart jokes, playing harsh particle jokes and… Ok I lied. I hate intelligent conversations…
I usually walk everywhere since I don’t have insurance on my vehicle at the moment, I read a lot of Facebook post and I love porn.
I’m convinced that all phone conversations will eventually lead to phone sex.
Message me. I need a ride to the grocery store.)

This Dating Site is not responsible for contracted STD’s, disappointments, additional sadness (stemming from, harsh judgments, honesty or bluntness connected to your fake profile), job loss or overall embarrassment.


I realized something yesterday.

I realized something yesterday.

I’m a good dad but I suck at being an adult.

My credit sucks. My work history is spotty. I have no savings and I’m currently steps away from a total financial collapse. But my daughter’s healthy and we have enough food to keep her fed and supplied with school lunches. I have a beautiful roof over my head. And I’m thankful for the wonderful support from friends and family.

But let’s be honest, I’ve made some freaking horrible decisions.

But in my defense, being depressed sucks. I mean, the happy to sad, it’s freaking exhausting. Seriously. After a whole day of dealing with myself, I’m freaking tired. But I’m recognizing my own patterns. Recognizing my triggers. And that’s the hardest part. Being on the lookout for what has gotten me in trouble before. I do find it funny how you can go through your entire life living a certain way. Building routines that help you get passed certain situations. Learning those “self-taught tools”. And then just to find out that they were actually very unhealthy habits. They were actually triggers that lead me to unhealthy results.

Well fuck me. Now I know.

Yeah, so this whole being an adult is pretty hard.

You know, I don’t remember my dad ever telling me how to become a responsible adult. We never talked about relationships, credit scores or how to manage money. And that’s cool. I was in such a hurry as a kid to grow up that I probably wouldn’t have listened anyways. But I’m not going to make that same mistake with my mija.

I think I sometimes over explain things to her. And that may be my over compensating for what I didn’t experience as a kid. But the way I see it, if I’m not annoying her as a dad then I’m obviously doing something wrong.

So onward with this depression crap.

For the most part, life is good. Just got to keep reminding myself of that.

Starting a new business can be stressfull.

I have to apologize. I started writing about one specific-topic and then I started to veer a bit to the left touching on another issue. So I’m sorry if my direction seems off. I just realized after I started writing that this was turning into a touchy subject for me.

So be kind regarding my lack of structure.

Before I decided to start Bosque Bio-Cleaning and Janitorial, I had called around to all the listed companies looking for open positions. I wasn’t looking to start a business just yet. I just wanted some hands- on experience to build on. So I just googled “crime scene cleaners, Albuquerque NM” and went down the list.

The first few numbers I called were located in the state bet they didn’t have any opening at that time.

So I kept calling.

The next two told me they did have openings but not in the regular sense.

“What do you mean, “In the regular sense”?

They went on to tell me that they were out of state (the first one was in M.N. and the second one was in T.X.). But they offer the option to become affiliated with their company for a fee (between $400-$750). That includes all the chemicals needed for the job, business cards and flyers and they would teach me how to promote the business in my area.

They said I would become they’re contact in the states (I found it funny how both companies insisted that they didn’t have anyone else in the state and that I would be able to control the entire market of N.M.).

I asked them, “What about training or certifications?”

“You wouldn’t need them since your working under our information.”

Yeah, that’s a HUGE NO-NO. Like $7,000-or-more-fine huge.

“We can teach you everything over the phone. And once you’re all set we can start sending work your way immediately!”

The red flags were whipping in the wind at this point. They both insisted that they had plenty of work to offer.

Yeah, hell no. It didn’t sound right. I just wanted a job in the field so I could develop experience. I wasn’t looking to take all that on.

So I kept on, calling down the list.

The next few referred me back to their websites, which all stated they covered New Mexico. But after looking further, they were actually located out of states. How do you cover the area if you’re 12 or more hours away? Well, here’s their process.

They buy up all the domains, set up all these generic pages and link them back to their toll free numbers. Someone in need calls them, they refer it to some local contractor they have in the area and that person does the work under the websites company information.

Is there any guarantee that the person that shows up for the jobs is properly trained? Maybe?

Any guarantee that they’ll use the proper cleaning supplies or methods? Maybe?

So it’s a risk. My suggestion, always go local.

There’s plenty of qualified companies out here, or in any state that can provide a thorough, positive experience. Crime-scene cleaning is a needed thing. We all know that. Tragedies happen and there is a need for someone to deal with it. But besides a need, there also seems to be a lot of greed in this industry.

In all reality, all you need is some OSHA certification, a general janitorial business licenses (in most cases-depending on the state) and some great advertising and them BOOM, you have a trauma cleaning business. So with our relaxed regulations, it’s open for people to over-charge, lie regarding experience and use extreme scare tactics.

Here are a few tips for someone dealing with a traumatic cleaning situation.

(I understand that the likelihood of the person not being in an emotional state to be pretty low. But as a professional in this field, I still need to make my recommendations.)

  1. Check out the company (Google is a great tool).
  2. Ask if they’re certified in the state (in California and Florida there’s additional Certifications that apply).
  3. Ask if there’s a guarantee for the services provided.
  4. Ask if they provide photos and a verified letter (some call it a re-occupy certification letter). It’s basically a statement from the cleaning company explaining what was done, how and if it’s been decontaminated for safe re-entry.
  5. Do they offer a quote?  Whatever you can get in writing always helps. Especially for the insurance companies.
  6. And lastly, don’t be afraid to ask question. Some in our industry, I hate to admit it, use some pretty rough tactics. You’re the boss, we’re there to help you. Not bully you.

Ok I’m done ranting. It just bugs me that good local help is ousted by larger groups. It shouldn’t be about how much advertising you can pay for, but the honesty of the work you can provide.


I’ve been up since 5 am and the third season of House Of Cards has come out. I’m trying my hardest not to sit in front of the TV for the next 13 hours and give in to my obsession. See, I have a problem. I binge watch Netflix episodes.

Portlandia- apparently during one of the hours watching the new season I forgot to wish my girlfriend at the time a happy birthday. Probably seeing her would have been a better. But see, I had originally started with that idea. A nice dinner, small gift and maybe a movie. Something small and sweet. But after considering my options (and watching a few episodes) I figured a call in the morning would be just as sweet. Especially with her busy schedule. Then I figured I would call her later in the afternoon. OK, I totally didn’t realize that I had lost half the day. She would probably be busy with all the well wishes and fun anyways. Well, I forgot entirely. But in my defense, watching several hours of a TV is exhausting. I was totally ready for bed.

Breaking Bad- was whole other experience. I didn’t go to work for an entire week. I never really got in to the craze when it originally started. So right before the last episode premiered I decided to watch the first episode. Six days later I emerged out of my home with a scruffy beard and squinting from being in direct sunlight for the first time in days. I miss you Walt.

Spaced- was another bad experience. I think I had court? I’m not sure. But I did find out that my license had been revoked a year later.

So here’s my dilemma.

If I try to host one show, I’ll have to watch the ENTIRE 3rd season. Why? Because it’s readily available for me to enjoy!

It’s like a drug dealer sitting patiently outside your door, waiting for you to ask for another hit. And it’s such a sweet buzz. OK, I’m being dramatic. But it seriously is addictive. Especially in our current society where we need instant gratification.

Post a picture on Facebook and we eagerly await likes. Retweets are like badges of honor. I don’t know how the hell Reedit works. But you get what I’m saying.

So I’m being strong by not. Hold on…. Ok I started watching the first episode… I’ll finish this post later. I promi

Wait, what was I just doing?

I may be 39 years old but I have the attention span of a 3 year old. It’s a sad state when sparkling things really do distract you.
It started in elementary school. Well, I first noticed it then. I remember everyone sat down to try out the new project the teacher had just spent an hour going over. And I, sitting in the middle of them, felt so lost because I had no idea what they were doing. I watched and had paid attention during the lesson. But now confused, I tried to copy what my neighbors were doing.
I hated school.
Socially, academically, physically, I hated it all. I was severely over weight so that didn’t help. Socially and physically I was always lagging or suffering. And study wise, I just never could grasp things. So I dropped out in the eighth grade.
I self taught myself a lot of things. Kind of going around my attention span issues. More of “Just do it and learn as you go”, type of stuff. I got away with a lot but some of it I still couldn’t understand.
I went back and tested for my GED once I learned I was going to be a dad. Best thing that’s ever happened to me. I scored above on everything except for math and science. But now as I enter middle age (40’s is middle age right?) I’m realizing I need to back track.
So I’m going back to school.
It’s like entering an episode of a Canadian, 80’s, teenage tv show where I’m the fat nerd. Except I’m not a nerd. Being a nerd would mean I’m able to pay attention.
But that’s ok. Just do it and learn as you go.
We’ll see.